This is an area I constantly have to work on! Thought you might like to read Marci's post about our relationship with our husbands called: Thoughts on my Heart
(just click on it and it will take you to her post.)
Here's an excerpt:
From the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks. Make a list of all the wonderful things that you love about your husband. What drew you to him? Add to the list and then read it often. When something he is doing bugs you, think of how many things that you do that bug him.
Hop on over and read it--it's good!